Grief Is Unnatural But Critical

Last week I asked a friend how she was doing, and I was struck when I received an answer instead of the usual banal platitude. With sadness she told me of the recent death of a close friend. I was reminded of a saying I heard years ago about death and shared it with her, that “God grieves with us.”


For several days I could not stop thinking about God grieving with us. Why does He grieve? I was told death is a natural part of life. If that is true should we grieve? Others claim we should rejoice about joining God in heaven. And then I finally understood. The comprehension was louder than a scream.

As much as I grasped in that moment, I also realized that God’s grief is beyond our comprehension. We were not designed to die. God never intended us to be separated from Him or each other. He is aware of the time we chose away from and has been ever since the fall from paradise. Death, contrary to false doctrine, is not natural. We were designed to live in perfect communion with Him forever, or as they say at my church, “now and ever, and unto the ages of ages.”

This shift helped me understand the importance of processing grief. Yes, we can be thankful in the hope of our loved one being closer to God, but we were never intended to be separated. God wanted all of us to be together forever in His Kingdom. His desire is so great He sacrificed His only Son to give us another chance to enter His Kingdom.

I pray for my dead grandparents often and still miss them with heartache. In certain moments I cry out for them and wish I had been allowed more time. I am right to miss them and until this past week did not know why. God never wanted us separated. Although I may not be the best at showing the loved ones still with me how important they are, I miss the ones who have moved on. I thank God for conquering death through death which allows us to be restored with Him and our loved ones in paradise. In Heaven grief will be no more.

“He will wipe every tear from their eyes.
Death will be no more;
mourning and crying and pain will be no more,
for the first things have passed away.” Revelations 21:4

Question: Have you struggled with grief or allowing yourself to grieve properly?

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